Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

What is EFT Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term therapy that aims to improve couple relationships by rekindling the physical and emotional bond that may have been lost. The therapy is based on research supporting attachment theory and considers the security of partner connection as the best way to initiate change in a dysfunctional relationship. EFT believes in the transformative power of love and focuses on restoring emotional ties, enabling partners to construct a mutually supportive and satisfying relationship.

IS EFT Therapy For Couples?

EFT is especially useful when couples arrive at counseling emotionally distressed or feel alienated and may believe the relationship is irreparable. The therapy is also useful for individuals with difficulty expressing or regulating emotions.

How Does EFT Therapy Work?

During the therapy, the therapist observes the couple's interaction patterns and identifies the unspoken fears and insecurities that underlie negative interaction patterns. The therapy typically consists of eight to 20 sessions held once a week. The first several sessions are focused on de-escalating the emotional reactivity and distress couples experience. In contrast, the second stage of therapy is devoted to restoring a deep emotional bond between partners.

Does EFT Therapy Work?

EFT works by putting emotional experiences and reactions front and center in therapy. It is based on attachment theory and its importance of connection to others as a source of feelings of comfort and safety and a vehicle for growth and development. Whether working with actual partners or mental representations of relationships in individual therapy, EFT explores the nature of our connections and the emotions they generate.

In summary, EFT is an effective therapy for couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions, regulating emotions, or those who feel alienated in their relationships. The therapy focuses on restoring emotional ties and creating a sense of security between partners, allowing them to serve as a secure base for exploration of the world and individual and partnership growth. Reach out to us at Horn Counseling, and we can help you and your partner connect with an EFT therapist in your area.